The divorce gist

Before we yarn anytin, una don vote for me? u see eh, dat our catikori get veterans o..FF , SSD and Aloted wey don de full ground since and then new mama Andrea(i hope say una don go tell am congratolubia) but i still trust una sha say, this my little here blog de kampe for the award somtin.

Anyway sha..this is kinda complicated and i do not in any way, by this post exempt this man from culpability in the disintegration of his home cos obviously, things have been bad a loong time.
from accounts, more like the day after the wedding and they have both been miserable ever since..
the man, in so many ways, unforgiving and the woman, not willing to get go.

Put it also at the back of your mind, especially if you have read the other post, that this divorce thing is not new, though the woman probably thought at the beginning that it was a joke, the man had said severally, even when she made efforts to stop fighting, asking him for money and all that, that he would divorce her even if it takes him 20 years, that she's just delaying the evil day.

Now to what happened..
so i was jejely in the little corner of the world that evening when i heard her call my name from downstairs, i answered..she insisted i come down to meet here, i did..i met here red-eyed holding out some papers

turned out they were divorce papers.Apparently, her husband had them delivered to her at work. so we sat down there where i attempted to flip thru it while she told me how she was going to burn the man's certificates and all documents (which he always carried around in his car). i scoffed and told that was going to far, i don't want her crossing the line into criminality and all, then i told her i'd go in and go thru everything well then we can talk about the next line of action.

So imagine my surprise when i saw her, minutes later in my sitting room with a sack bag and a briefcase, she said her lights blow and she needed to see what she was doing. she then proceeded to remoe the documents from the briefcase to the sack, i stood up and stopped her. i told her i cannot stop by and let her do that. that she wasn't thinking straight and i don't want her regretting her actions later with no way to reverse it. etc etc

i called on hubby who came out and together we stopped her..

Fast forward two days later(Sunday evening) : we are in my living, she's browsing on my system, then she started talking about the divorce but that she still wants the marriage and wants to give it a chance. I asked her if she'd given the stuff back, she said no and that she wont. I advised her to, that she cant say she wants peace while she takes actions like that.

Then she said, if she was my sister, would i have advised her thus? i told her, if she was my sister i would've taken the stuff back to the guy myself, that she has to show 'good faith' if, as she said, she wants reconciliation..that even in court, such actions are counter-productive, no one would show you sympathy and that is such an irreversible act that even if she regrets it later, the harm would've already been done.

Oh boy, see as this babe jump me o..she just vex scatter begin yarn rubbish - say ' eh, you are not a good friend..a good friend would not advice me to give it back, after everything this man has done, what will i have to show for all the pain ..it is today i know that you are conniving with my husband bla,bla, bla..

Na so i shock, open mouth de look the babe blab..i said, ok am not a good friend because i'm not telling you what you want to hear, i'm sorry, ehh, sorry that i ever answered your question or put my mouth in your affairs.. i was so pissed..

Na so d babe, carry her pikin, de blab de go o..i just de look am i no fit shout..
she has tried to talk to me and such ever since but i'm just not feeeling her, i still pick her kid from school, let her stay with my kids till she'd back but that was such an OMG moment for me, i don't think we can recover from it
..like i told her, if after everything, you had the mind to say i am conniving with your husband, then i have nothing to say to you and really, i dont.
it's just that i don't like strained environments and she's my neighbour!!

Now - be honest, did i say something wrong..though in hindsight, i blame myself for even trying to stop her cos it dawned on me that that's what she wanted when she brought those things into my house, if i'd just kept watching tv,like i didn't see what she was on about, could she really have done it?..though hubby thinks she would've , saying the classic words ' Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!!'