it's been crazy around here..

been almost a week since my last update and i've been mega busy..mehn..crazy.. first of all, my health was still in relapse mood all through the weekend..on and off like a switch ..but i'm all good now..yay!! so i especially want to appreciate y'all for you love and affection..yeah, all the wonderful get well wishes did me a lot of good.

And then on Monday, a good friend of mine was delivered of a baby. .unexpectedly..she'd been having high blood pressure from the onset of the pregnancy but it was well controlled, she was on weekly appointments ..
well,when she came on Monday, her bp was through the roof, she was all swollen and had 4 pluses of protein in her urine..immediately, she was prepped for an emergency CS and out came this beautiful boy..at 34 weeks,weighing 2.4kg

We are more thankful to God that the baby is doing well, didn't even need to be taken to Special Care Baby Unit,no incubator..nothing..he's doing beautifully..

the mother is doing good too, her bp is getting better, the swellings are beginning to come down and she's even started breastfeeding.since they don't have family here, i, who have experienced how difficult it can be when you have no help, try to be there with her, take her food and whatever she needs..

Now over at the home front, i got holidaymakers..two kids whose mom had died giving birth to the second child..i havae them around for the holidays ..so now i have four kids between the ages of 5 and 1.5 years..(the first girl is 5, my boy is 2.5, the second girl is 2, my girl is 1.5) oh, i haven't added my neighbours child who practically lives with us(she's 2).. the kids are having a ball but the stress is all on moi so yeah, it's crazy here..the fights, tantrums, playing, cryings have increased tenfold.. but the happiness too..it so reminds me of how my father's house was..infact still is, we always have people around for the holidays..cousins, friends, children of godsons and goddaughters..it's greaaat feeling... but at the end of the day,yours truly is so tired that going online is the last thing on my mind..it's unbelievable... who's been saying i need another child? please,eh..thank you..i see how u love me reach..maybe you should stop by the house and see what i'm seeing here

when malaria strikes..

I woke up this morning feeling alive..fresh, sexy, beautiful and confident. it was great feeling especially given what i'd been through the past three days and boy, did i revel in it.!!


Since last weekend, id been complaining of headaches..everyone around me said..'ah, it must be malaria, take something before it takes you down'.

but me being me, i just couldn't..i hate pills,medication of any kind even if it's vitamins,of course i didn't. As at Tuesday morning when i wrote my last post, the headache was still there but i was fine.

Six hours later,i was on my way to hell..literally..i was having migraine headaches,couldn't bear to look at a screen or bright light of any sort...i have peptic ulcer,so i felt like my body was halved with my chest upwards on one hand and my stomach downwards on another..my whole body was aching, i couldn't eat or sleep.

in just six hours..it was crazy..i was almost in a state of delirium..you know, when you start feeling like the house maybe falling in on you.

i didn't need a seer to tell me to start the medication, i called hubs and he came home with them..of course you know how malaria drugs can get you down..mine is especially bad,infact, it's one of the things that turn me off them..i was listless, restless, weak with that horrible taste in my mouth that only malaria or early pregnancy can give..

when people say Genotype AA people are prone to malaria attacks i just shake my head cos it doesn't happen to me, as in i go for months..long months..but sometimes when it comes,it just overwhelms me and those around me..

thankfully though, i awoke today..almost brand new..(i was kinda surprised, the drug worked in a short enough time) so i just rushed off to do all the stuff i had piled up.. now who say malaria cannot kill children of 5 years of age and below..believe it..it's real!!

so i'll be checking out all you lovely people soonest..just do me a favor.. rock this weekend, yeah, you can start the holidays early!!

Decisions make men II

so i hd said the stories were about three men..the first you can find here.

Now to the story of the second man..this man got married to his wife and they had kids,boys and girls too, things were getting on beautifully until the man's eye caught another woman whom he started an affair with and later married.

there was a lot of outcry, mostly his family and friends said,the wife had both boys and girls, wetin this new wife wan come born? messiah?

the house turned into a war zone..a lot of fighting between him and his first wife, problems with the kids who were ordered to 'respect' his new wife, of course, the new wife decided who got what, whose school fees were paid etc..

well, things got to a head and the first wife packed out.

fast forward some 25,30 years later, the once bubbling vibrant man is stricken with colorectal cancer..the second wife had gone through whatever it is he might have had as is the nature of such women..the kids were now grown and with so much anger and bitterness.

still, one of the girls,now a grown woman with her own child, infact, with a six months old child carried him all the way from their home down here for treatment,with her own money..not minding the stress on her child and her family..

all she kept saying was..'what will i do now? he's still my father and i hate to see him so frail'.

indeed, he was shocked that it was the child of the first wife that stepped up to take care of him and wished he had done more for them,the kids of the other woman are still teenagers even.

And if you see this man, you see a man whose heart is full of regret..and he won't hesitate to tell you his story..

wordless sunday..interesting ID cards

YAY!!! IT'S OUR ANNIVERSARY..

I always say that there must have been some special plan for me to be with this man.

We never did the conventional..
i never even had the time to play coy, or we didn't the 'toasting' route.
we were totally taken with each other, still we fought it..
we were completely in love but we both denied it..
we were just friends,we said..

we would spent hours on the phone with eachother,
texting throughout most nights..
you would wake me up at night so i can read..
everyone who sold call cards at the Law school knew me so well
cos i would knock on their doors at odd hours..
just so i could say hello to him

my friends would tease me crazy.. but i would say..
'really, there's nothing going on, i haven't even seen this dude..well, not since this started, even then we didn't even know ourselves that well..

they'll just roll their eyes and say 'babe, you are totally in love'.

ME???!!
this was entirely new, i normally entered relationships because 'boy meets girl, chykes her, follows her around and tries to convince her, finally she acquiesces, cos well, maybe she just should'..
but this one here was coming from deep within me
i liked what i felt..
i liked the flow and i went with it..
yeah, we completely jelled..it was and still is awesome
we told each other everything, past, present and plans for the future, likes, dislikes, fears, friends, family...everything...over the phone

but it was scary too
so i couldn't wrap my head around it when you said to give you a break..
my friends said you were scared of your feelings
i was too..but was dealing with it..

months later you returned..you said the same thing but you promised you would never leave me high and dry, never again, you vowed i could trust you..
me, i couldn't even say no..i tried but my heart just wouldn't say no

and since then you've not faltered..you're loving me the way every woman dreams
you are dependable, supportive, trusting.
you come through for me every step of the way..

Three years today since i donned my gorgeous native outfit and performed the customary rites..the next day, we took it a notch higher..
life's been absolutely beautiful with you..
AND SO SHALL IT EVER BE!!

See, that's why i said i love December..

Title crazy..yes, Nigerians mostly are!!

So i wanted to post the second installment from 'decisions men make' but something happened this evening i just have to gist you guys about.

I had my neighbour over, we were together going through some stuff i was doing for her online when i heard a knock. Turns out, some one from my church was visiting. We had worshipped in their congregation on Sunday and she'd mentioned she'd like to visit, so i had given her the address and she turned up today.

Pleasantries were exchanged and we started gisting. somewhere along the line, she mentioned she really wanted to invite me to Akwa Ibom state day here in Ibadan.(we're from the same state).
I was excited and all, i told her i'd never attended before but will like to, then asked my neighbour (who was closer to her) to get the card for me.

Then i heard this exclamation.. ' eh, brother and sister ke?'

i looked up ..'what's that?'

only to see her turning to the lady to say.. 'ah ah, why did you address the card like this now?'

i was astounded..i reached out and grabbed the card and it read, 'BRO AND SIS HISTREASURE'

And i went..'like what?'

'Brother and Sister now..if it's me,i'd never collect it o..ah,ah, when your husband is a doctor and you are a barrister, see the way she just addressed you lightly..' she said

At first, i tried to laugh it off but when she went on and on about it, i knew i just had to call her out on it.

Firstly, this lady was my visitor (she could've waited till she left before voicing whatever reservations she had cos it was embarrassing even to me)
Secondly, i did not agree with her, at all.

so i made that very clear.. 'girl, that card is rightly addressed ..our names are correctly spelt and we are her brother and sister in Christ, i eat communion with this lady, fellowship with her, pray with and for her and that by far surpasses any professional relationship i may have.'

ok, we argued a bit but i remained adamant and she concluded that i am just weird, ' cos she doesn't understand why i can take such things so lightly' .. because according to her
'even here, you allow people to call you Mrs Histreasure instead of Barrister (Mrs) Histreasure.

I no fit shout..i laughed it off but i hope my point was made.

it reminded me of doctor friend who wanted to marry a guy but her dad refused because 'how am i going to introduce him?' (guy read English in Uni) the guy decided he was going to become a professor in this life (so at least they can say at some point, they'll be called DR &DR (MRS) - talk about motivation.. quite unlikely source but you never know, it works.

Is it any wonder then that we now hear of people using prefixes like Teacher, Surveyor, Accountant, Architect etc..

I won't even enter the realm of Pastor, Reverend, Bishop, Chief, Elder, Alhaji and the numerous traditional titles which can be combined in a number of ways with the professional titles above to create more scintillating prefixes.

check this out..Surveyor (Chief) Elder Lagbaja

If you are sending an invite to him for an occasion or calling him to the 'high table' at an event, yo better not forget any of the titles and affixes as he may simply pretend he's not the one being addressed.

Indeed with the proliferation of Theological colleges and Private schools who give out honourary Doctorate degrees at will, no need to study years for one, with enough cash,
you can be Otunba Arch. (Rev.) Dr. Laffoutloud Lala MNI, OFR (JP) or like we used to scream in those Student gatherings back in the day "HIV, STD, TDB"..

G'dnite people..

Loving December + Decisions Men Make

December is here..YAY!!

I so love this month eh..No, i wasn’t born in December, neither was my love, kids or come to think of it any close family member that i can recall right away..

Still, it’s an awesome month for me..

Something happened in December that still makes me smile, you know, that smile that comes from deep within and reminds that yeah, life can be beautiful.. Guess, if you dare!!

Well, Well..to the gist of the day

The decisions we make in life have far-reaching effects ..sometimes more than we could ever have anticipated..

I have been exposed to a few situations these past few days that made me reiterate the above well known fact.

MEN..MEN..MEN..

Yes, they all revolved around three men and the things they did when they were younger..different people who never knew one another but whose lives i was chanced to look into in the past week..i will not mention their tribes cos i do not like re-enforcing stereotypes inadvertently or otherwise

FIRST CASE SCENARIO: This man married a wife and had kids by her..he seemed to have had a thing for women and had several problems with the wife on this account. It seems tho that he later had another woman who superceded all the others, was said to have been his childhood sweetheart but was now widowed and living in the same town with him(and the family). He laid his life bare with this woman, did his businesses with her, showed his properties to her (the only thing he didn’t do was name her next of kin),told her the people he owed and who owed him..as in this woman was the one that knew everything about him..his wife was just so called by name only.

I was amazed..

Now the kids were all out of the house and living their lives but had an idea of what was going on(as in that he had another woman..when they confront him, he’ll just go on and on about how difficult the wife was and all.(that’s not the post of this post sha). The point is, this man died quite suddenly and intestate too.

After which the children realised they were just hanging and knew next to nothing about their father. Infact, they said they had to call the woman to attend the family meeting after the burial and to find out what she knew..

I’m still trying to wrap this around my mind..having a wife and treating her like that..

Flaunting a mistress this way..

what about your kids?..

how sure are they that the woman would reveal everything?

what if this woman doesn’t come through for them ? cos she really doesn’t have any responsibility towards them..she can keep telling them business is dull ‘till thy kingdom come’

Now, Imagine how the wife would feel..i can’t even put it in words

And when will our people understand that a will is necessary immediately you start having property be it real estate, shares or anything you would love your child to have when you are gone

Ok, how about telling them about these things yourself, if you feel making a will means sudden death.

Damn, how about just giving your wife her rightful place and averting all these confusion, even if for the sake of the children you both have ..hell, she deserves it ,at least living with your mistress in the same town all these years is enough heartache..

See as the tory come long I don over-yarn..i’ll have to continue with the other two in my next post..

Have a beautiful December y’all.

xoxo

Lagos traffic is simply frustrating!!

Remind me again why i decided that residing in Lagos is not for me?

Traffic!!!

you got it..

so tell me, what then possessed me to take a trip into the dreaded labyrinth of roads in this metropolis the day before a public holiday?

And further, went ahead to travel back on the first day of the Sallah holidays?

do i have some latent masochistic tendencies?

ok, don't answer that but OMG!!!

Lagos traffic is ------------------- (fill in your favourite adverse adjective)

Ah, my eye see shege, no be small matter..

i had my day planned, time scheduled to do everything i went there for,when i told my sister all that, she just scoffed at me..

"you know it's not that easy here , traffic is just unpredictable.."

and it happened :- after spending futile hours in a holed up in traffic which simply refused to move..we sought out alternatives
boarding the next available BRT bus headed to Yaba was my sister's suggestion - best decision ever!!!
Thank God for BRT buses, O Fashola, u do dat one alone!!

deciding to come back to Ibadan on the first day of the holiday -my worst decision in recent times..
but i missed Mr Me and the kids and was plain tired of Lagos wahala jare

apparently, half of Lagos was moving to Ibadan too, ok..i exagerrate but you get my drift
i left Lagos 3pm and reached Ibadan 10:30pm
no fronting..ah..

it's no wonder then that i woke up with body pains feeling like i should stay in bed all day..
but we had stuff planned out esp for the kids..

so lemme go enjoy my day, i hope u do the same!!

xoxo

Harmattan is here...so is that 'smell' of christmas..

I don't celebrate christmas..at least,not as a religious festival..
but i sooo enjoy the holiday..who doesn't?
and i grew up this period is associated with a particular 'smell'.

yes o..when the harmattan is in full blast mode,
there's a certain scent you perceive in the air
i really can't explain it..
but truly, that's what makes christmas complete..
it evokes a peculiar feeling in people
you just know..ah, christmas is approaching

even when the harmattan winds delay in making its debut for the year,
it's believed that it will at least come out before christmas day
else it won't be quite the same..

But this year it's here early,
our dry chapping harmattan wind is already screeching through the trees..
and so, christmas is 'in the air' already..

what does the cold harmattan wind remind you of?
for me, it reminds me of going to visit gramps, of eating her roast corn with pear
putting my hands over her earthen fire as she makes spicy-hot pepper soup
with effirin.....and lots of fresh fish...

ah, let me stop here..before i start salivating..
so tell me what harmattan reminds you of
and if you are not here in Naija experiencing it,
what do you miss about it?

p:s-a special thanks to all who commiserated with me on the last post..as an update, well, i'm totally doped up on antibiotic and painkillers thus doing well and since i have no intention of spending this awesome long weekend with a swollen face, holed up in the house in pain, i begged off the surgery till next week..
yeah, yeah, i know you'll all go 'typical Naija wey go relax wen pain don subside' but really..i no fit shout.

g'nite jare!!

Ever had toothache????....OMG..

You need to feel it to understand..
the pain, the agony, the difficulty in swallowing, yawning and even talking
depending on how gnawing the pain is,you might not be able to eat
and you wouldn't go near your favourite lamb suya..

Arrgggghhhh,
the pain radiates to your ear, gives you a headache and makes it difficult to sleep.

that is the state i am now,
it's been on and off for the past three months,
the last time,i actually wanted to go to the dentist's but in my characteristic manner, i kept procrastinating, a few days after the pain subsided and i went my way, forgetting about the dentist and even wondering why i had thought it was a big deal.

now,it's back and it's worse..OMG!!!
this one started on Wednesday, from the onset it was different.ah, the pain..
one guy actually asked me yesterday which is worse..
toothache or childbirth...

i was like 'what?'
'he said 'well, someone said toothache is worse'.
i shook my head...the babe must have had an uber easy birth, she wouldn't say that otherwise
when i reached home,i relayed the convo to hubby(who himself had extracted a tooth a while back)

and he said,'i co-sign, ah, toothache's worse o..maybe your own is not just serious'
to which i replied...' well,you guys are in no position to do the comparison,last i checked,you don't give birth'..
he laughed..

well, when i went to dental clinic today, i didn't hear anyone screaming 'e gba mi o'
or 'e shanumi' or something to that effect.
so what does that tell ya?

but i digress.
so it turns out yours truly has a tooth that's been trying to grow out but is blocked by a bone and thus the gum is overstretched and inflamed..

bottom line, i'll keep having recurrent pain unless the tooth is taken out..
so i'm on antibiotics now to tackle the infection
and an appointment for extraction by next week

ah,they explained how they'll cut into my gum, drill the bone and extract the tooth..
i ordinarily wouldn't be looking forward to such an ordeal
but all my mind's saying is..
'anything but this pain..'

so tell me, ever had toothache?
how was it?
ever extracted one?
or more?
c'mon, do share..