Happy Anniversary to me!

Today is our wedding Anniversary!!!! yep!!!

Actually, today is the continuation of our wedding Anniversary since the Traditional Marriage was on the 7th so technically yesterday was it (or the beginning of it as i like to call it)

So it's been an interesting year in our lives..so much has happened. it's amazing what God has led us through and how he always seems to come through for us even at unexpected moments.

It's not been a bed of roses without thorns, no marriage is..just that with the right person, the thorns are easy to conquer and the smell of the roses are sweeter..lol

So yesterday was mega busy but today?....we got plans(humming ****gonna make this a night to rememeber..tonight, tonight****)....lol!!

Happy Hoildays, people!

I don't know what blogger has done to me o!!! i just disappear like that ..i can't understand it. Much of that urge just doesn't seem to be there anymore. i do not have a reason. I have 24/7 internet connection yet....well, i guess it's that mojo thing people talk about.. so i just do not bother to beat myself up over it.

So what's been good!! a lot's been going on over here, gist about mistresses and men who cant do without them, funny colleagues, funnier lil ones and more..i'l get down to it all in a bit(hopefully, it won't take another 4weeks).

I just wanna wish our Muslim brothers a wonderful Eid celebration! Holidays are always welcome, you know, it's always gr8 to have a day you can afford to sleep till 6am..

I'm always here...i'm sure you see me around!
take care of yourself, everyone
xoxo

To every woman who desires motherhood

picture me on my knees, my hands put together while i say with a low contrite voice, 'forgive me bloggers for i have sinned, it's been five weeks (or one month, seven days-yep, that sounds better) since my last blog post and i have quite a lot to confess to..

or maybe, i should just quietly clean the cobwebs dangling from every corner of the blog and proceed..

yep. that'll work..though i can't still believe blogger and i have gotten to that point where we can effectively survive without each other..oh well!

So i'm up at this time of the day with a heavy heart, thinking about a friend of mine whose marriage is on the brink of collapse -because they don't have a child..

i can't help thinking ..'Lord, all they need is one, just one, Lord. why can't they just have one?'..
i can't help thinking..'i thought they were stronger than this', you know, one of those marriages where the man always comes across as supportive and caring and true -like, he's stand behind her in all things..

so when i open my fb and see her page with a name change back to her maiden name,at first, i thought, it was just one of those for fun changes or maybe my heart just wanted to believe so..it was easire to believe so..

and then we spoke briefly and she said...'hmmm, my sister, so that somebody will not die and they can have their child, we are apart now..

my heart broke into pieces for her, i couldn't even imagine what she's going through, i mean, she's doing so well in all aspects of her life except she doesn't have the one she desperately desires..

My sadness for her deepend even more when the pregnancy test of one of my colleagues came back positive, she was angry, depressed and certainly not ready for another child (her second child will be one by monthend) -

She went to family planning clinic and as is required, had to do the test before any other thing only for it to come back +ve, we spent the whole day trying to assure her that it's all for the best and since she wants 3 kids, she might as well have this one and get it out of the way..

But i couldn't help but see the irony of it all..
one person wants, needs, desires just one child and another is crying that the last thing she needs in her life right now is another child!
it would be funny, if it wasn't so sad...

please remember to say a word of prayer for my friend... and every woman you know who could be in this situation

As i always say, it is not possible for your desire to be a grand-ma, grand-pa, aunt, uncle etc to be greater than that woman's desire to hold her own child so back off, if you cannot be supportive, just leave her alone..what she is going through, you can only imagine..

and who even says the fault is hers..eh?

Stuff

So i've not been here in like what, 2 weeks?

well, a lot's been going on..



for one, i found a school for the little ones..quite new though ( which is advantageous in some ways and disadvantageous too!

but i decided to go with it cos of some awesome features it has..

well, we pray it works as much as it professes it works..

they started last week and the kids seem to like it - a lot

so it's been so busy, school runs and all.



Also, my neighbour which i have written about here and here had taken things to a whole new level, incessantly fighting and publicly harrassing the man (who by the way had move out) at work, exhibiting a level of agression that ultimately landed her in the Psych ward.



so i had my work cut out for me..she's home now though and we all hope that what a thousand pieces of advice could not achieve, a stint in the Psych ward would.



We had a great weekend..it was loooooong and sweeeet! lol

one of advantages of staying in Naija, the thousand holidays in a year..lol



hope you guys have been good...

have a gr8 week ahead, people!



much love!!!!

September!

May the Favour of the Lord our God be upon you, establish the works of your hands, yes, establish the works of your hands - Psa 90:17

Happy New Month, people!
I'm a mega busy bee over here but i'l soon be back.

Shalom!

PHCN 24hrs blackout + Naija cash flow!

Naija is trending on the net - twitter and everywhere.
And you know we always trend when something is amiss somewhere (and something is always amiss - lmho.
So the nationwide blackout is trending Naija right now -talk about notoriety..

Now, the salary slash is also gonna cause wahala, soon!
sometimes i wonder how they think or wh thinks for them..

who decided that in a country where the president did not blink before signing a 3oo billion contract fr presidential jets..
where NASS members go home with almost 1.7million dollars..
where about 7billion is slated for Anniversary 'celebration'
and the president just signed 72billion naira for INEC
that it is okay and even acceptable to tell workers that government is reverting to their old pay since it does not have the cash to pay them the new salary they've been collecting in the past 2months..

i ask the question, is Naija broke

And a more pertinent question -who makes these decisions?

p:s - i didn't even know NEPA was on strike, i thought it was their usual no-light kini..unless people started calling from all-over to ask if we had light..heard they've called off the strike but light has still not come....yet!

mek i no worry una wit naija wahala anymo..so how are y'all doing

Oyo State of Nigeria - i hope all state governments are not like this.

I know, infact, everybody knows that governance in Nigeria is not about service.. and people have seemed to accept their fate while they pray that years should run so one set could replace themselves with another..

But they still hope that it wouldn't be this bad..

And this is bad..i do not think i have ever seen a state degenerate into this near statelessness (if i may say so myself).

And there is a head, a governor..and every month there is a specific amount designated for use in this state...yet...

teachers have been on strike for almost 3 months now..(i read that he asked if they want him t break the bank to pay them..well, it desn't look like he broke the bank to do owambe for his wife birthday or the extravagance that was his daughter's wedding two weeks later)

doctors at the state hospitals are on strike...

judicial workers are on strike...

lecturers at the state University are on strike, students are home..

transport workers (NURTW) are fighting (thank God for Ramadan, they've shielded their swords, for now)

the governor is fighting with a neighbouring state's governor over a University ...so the school is closed..

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

but then as they say, the state is a microcosm of the whole..is it the case here? or should i even ask that?

all i know is that, this state needs some good governance ..and fast too!!

and why do i care? you may ask... i live here, that's why! and like it or not, bad governance affects everyone!

the man in charge - Otunba Alao-Akala

***sidenote - can the PDP-led Fededral governance call him to order? it may not be constitutional but wouldn't that be a political solution?

(and the man is seeking second term. imagine!!!)

The University of Ibadan religious 'crisis'

I heard this today and i was utterly stumped..
i mean what was this girl thinking?

is she totally oblivious of the society in which she lives, of the rules that apply in each religion, okay, let's not even say religious rules..let's even say respect for another person's belief; the same argument we adduce against Islamic extremists, that is to say, while you think what you believe is the best, i also reserve the inherent right to believe whatever i want to, and while you may try to persuade me otherwise, it has to be done in an unoffensive manner.

So the story has it that this chic, a 4th year Law student of the University of Ibadan, thought that it is ultimate wisdom to go to the Campus Mosque during last Friday prayers to preach..telling them to come to Jesus, believe in Jesus, how their prayers are in vain cos they're sinners etc..GOD!!!!

She probably thought 'yes, it's time to convert all them Allah believing, prophet Mohammed touting, christian hating moslems, even if she dies doing so'. And she almost did. Die, i mean.

i couldn't believe it?
i kept asking the question; is she okay?
does she have some sort of mental problem hidden under that guise of religion? maybe 'matyr complex'?

She survived only because the University environment where this took place is a controlled environment and the Chief Imam, IMO, not an extremist like so many of his contemporaries.. i heard though, that she was really beaten up before the man could even get her away from the mob.

I mean this is a religion where the men do not even pray with the women, the women do not even enter some parts of that mosque..to make it worse, this is the Ramadan month, where so many other rules are in place regarding separation between the sexes.. And she decided to go a-fishing there...and if you have been in a place like Ibadan for any length of time, you get to know these things, even if you come from the South/South or East where there are just a handful of moslems.

Pardon me if this sounds harsh but i think it was pure madness..it's like going out in Dubai with hotpants and a see-through top or engaging in PDA cos you think it's silly to restrict yourself. it's the rules, respect it!

what did she seek to achieve? how would she feel if, for instance, she was about to take Holy communion and someone comes into her place of worship to denounce her faith and tell her she was on the way to hell?

it would, at the very least, be annoying and of course, ineffective..

Now there is tension everywhere on campus..and in town.

When will people learn wisdom?

Choosing a school for your kids - how difficult can that be?

It's been quite busy around here so much that even when i get on here, i only just come to visit y'all cos the very idea of writing sounded about as appealing as eating a Mr Biggs' doughnut, well, don't hit me if you are a fan.

Well, If you've been on this blog for any lil length of time, you'd noticed that i'm mom to a 3 year and a 2 year old, yeah, well, cos i always never fail to mention it...lol.

My son attended playgroup and pre-nursery at the school in our estate and was quite ok for a bit but for so many reasons, i want to change their school.

the first being that there are too many children in one class, IMO and as my kids are really getting t learn now, i feel they need a more personalised care.

then the actual nursery and primary section is in town so if they convenience part of it is out, why not just get another school, we'd still be going to town anyways.

Who knew having to find a school could be such hard work?

it really is!

I was about to settle then realised that i have a list in my mind, 80% of that met and i'l pick that school straight-out.there are quite a few issues to consider.

First, among other things, is the fact that i'm not willing to pay a ridiculous amount of money just so they can go to a 'certain' school or just so i can prove i can.

really, some fees are just outrageous and while i was tempted for a bit, i had to really sit down and reason it out, i came to the conclusion that it's not worth it, it cannot be. i really don't have t spend that amount of money to get the best..

and this is nursery/primary education, for God's sakes.

not to mention the possibility of them feeling 'priviledged', you know, those kids that you see and pray your kids never turn out that way(though parenting is a big factor here,still...or am i the only person that worries about such things

and then there's the issue of status..people choosing schools for their kids so they could say, 'my son goes to so and so school..

back that up with the fact that i don't want to have to change their school again after this, God willing.

making choices is never easy especially when you feel the need to make the best choice once and for all, you can see that it's not just school i'm talking about here..it is quite a challenge so it's OK to take your time.

for me, there's always one feature or the other missing..i wish i could just put all the wonderful features from each of them together and have a dream school...yeah, dreamer!

but i have to make a choice soon..another school year starts next month..and i would love for them to have a few weeks of summer program in the new school before the term starts.

@downtheaisle..hope you're enjoying the book, didn't get your number but will be opening my mail in a bit and shall call you later in the day!..Congrats again!

P:S - 100th post coming right up, are congratulations in order or what? another giveaway might be on the way..see what i did there?

e don do, mek i carry my boring self de go jare, hapi wkend!

Blog giveaway -the day is here!

So the d-day is here!!


This post is really about the awesomeness of this handsome bloke that God dashed me - with whom i have shared some truly wonderful experiences with.

You know, sometimes feelings overwhelm you and you find it difficult to express what's inside..


so all i'm gonna say is i thank God for placing you here on earth, to await my arrival and to love me the way i was made to be loved.


On the giveaway...
i did the random.org thingy as indicated below...

And...

this is what came up...



I checked that out and comment number 27 was made by....


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or

Gengen..........(like Nollywood peeps)

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so we've got a winner..thanks to all who participated and for the good wishes..

P:S - downtheaisle, pls send ur contact details to sazzyprincess@gmail.com..Congratulations!!

Happy weekend y'all..
and a wonderful new year to the love of my life..